This blog is a continuation of a previous blog titled, “The Power of Thank You: The Way You Perceive Injustices.” In the final episode of the first season of Mind Power, Rachel Krider and her husband, Shane Krider, discuss how and when to acknowledge people in your life who mistreat you and what you need to to to protect yourself.
You can’t be happy if you’re tuned in to what you think the underlying stuff is. That’s just an example of how two people can have the same exact experience, at the same time, and one walks away more beaten up, and the other person just has a great time.
And is oblivious.
Here’s the thing. Mary may have been on one level trying to dig. I think every comment somebody makes, to some degree there might be a little bit of a dig. But it’s just conversation, and people wouldn’t be interacting with you if they didn’t get value out of it. We can create a story that says there’s this whole underlying thing going on, but it’s not the entire story. In fact, it’s just the tiniest fraction of it, and the point is you don’t give it any life.
It just won’t. It will cease to exist.
It can’t exist until somebody else acknowledges it, and if you refuse to look at things in a negative light, nothing sticks to you. You’re always in a good mood, and you’re still happy. But here’s the thing, things happen, and we take it personally, and we want to protect ourselves.
That’s crazy. Like you have to see it for it to be there, so you have to acknowledge it for it to be there. It’s not that it ceases to exist, it just does not exist.
It doesn’t exist in your universe until you recognize it. Let me ask you this. If I wrote you a check for a million dollars, you’re now a millionaire. You’ve got that check sitting right there and if you just never acknowledged it, would you ever have the million dollars? I can open a bank account in your name, give you a million dollars, put it in the bank account, but if you just never acknowledged it, it’s not there.
In one of our programs, we have this little saying. A gift isn’t a gift when it’s given; a gift is a gift when it’s received. You have to take it on. And a lot of us spend our lives tuning into being hypersensitive, and we’re in victim mode.
Other people are wronging you. When you are going to go through your life, and every single person you know is probably mistreating you to some degree, big or small, somewhat consciously or somewhat unconsciously. The more life you give it, the more it’s going to impact your level of acknowledgment and that is going to impact your life negatively.
But you’re equally at cause. Not only does it impact you, but it casts the other person into the role of the bad guy. Rach, have you ever known anybody that regardless your best efforts, just absolutely needed to see you as the bad guy?
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Rachel Krider, a successful personal development life coach and entrepreneur, is the co-host of Born to Prosper’s Mind Power podcast. Along with her husband, Rachel travels the world in luxury to speak to aspiring entrepreneurs at conferences and workshops to inspire them to find their own pathways to success. Rachel Krider is part of The Prosperity of Life Network, a United States-based personal development business with a presence in 52+ countries.